Doubt and fear are the two evil stepsisters to your goals.
Out of all the reasons people do not achieve their goals, the two biggest culprits are doubt and fear. But the funny thing is, both are created by ourselves and exist only in our minds. They contain no substance other than what we give them.
Over 80% of New Year’s Resolutions are broken before month #2. That’s according to Inc. Magazine. Over 80 percent! So what is it? Why? Maybe the goal wasn’t inspiring enough. Maybe it was too far out there. Possibly, we’re just being lazy. It could be any number of reasons, but the statistic is ugly and real.
Nevertheless, they’re very real and they’re not quite so easy to just sluff off and ignore. So what to do about them? Consider a couple of thoughts:
First, acknowledge the fact that they are normal. Expect them. You might even say to one of them, “It’s about time you showed up! I’ve been expecting you!” Too often we think we’re the only ones going through struggles. We see post after post of success stories on everyone else’s social media feeds and wonder, “What’s wrong with ME?”
Actually, nothing. Abnormal would be NOT feeling these emotions. So, start by being OK with it. It’s a part of the journey. The only way to avoid them is to stay safely inside your comfort zone and go nowhere. You don’t want that.
Second, now that you’ve accepted them, make doubt and fear your friends. Heck, throw in nervousness, uncertainty and failure as well. They’re FRIENDS, not enemies. Why would I say this?
If you’re going to accomplish any kind of significant achievement, you’ll have to learn to work with emotions like doubt and fear. It’s an inseparable part of the journey because these so-called “enemies” are what make you stronger, better and wiser. And in order for you to ACHIEVE a higher level, you must first BECOME that person. Which means conquering the doubt and fear. The achievement is simply the outcome of the overcome.
Third, get in a daily habit of connecting with your purpose. Your why. Implement it into your morning routine. Visualize it and feel it throughout your body. Attach it to the emotion you will feel when you achieve it. When you have your sites fixed on your finish line, obstacles such as fear and doubt will tend to dissolve. But be careful- once you’ve got your eyes on the prize, the next step is to get them off and focus on the daily activities that will get you there.
So embrace the imperfection. Set your goals with confidence and then be glad when doubt and fear show up because they are a sure sign you’re outside your comfort zone and on track. And once on track, you just have stay in motion.
Are you in the 80%? How do you overcome doubt and fear? What other obstacles that get in the way of accomplishing your goals?